Dear Reader, “I didn’t reach out because our financial situation hasn’t really changed.” That’s what one of my clients said during a recent coaching session—and maybe you’ve thought the same. They’d been using all the tools I gave them: ✔️ Having regular money dates ✔️ Paying themselves from their business ✔️ Distributing tax refunds into sinking funds ✔️ Holding steady during the slowest year of business yet So they assumed: If nothing’s changing with our finances, there must be nothing new...
5 days ago • 1 min read
Dear Reader, Sharing your truth with people who haven’t earned your safety isn’t brave—it’s self-abandonment. We’re taught to believe that transparency is always noble, that “living in your truth” means telling everyone everything. But in reality emotional self-care means protecting your energy, your peace, and your nervous system. If someone isn’t safe, you don’t owe them your story. And here’s why this matters for your dinero: When you’re spending emotional energy managing other people’s...
10 days ago • 2 min read
Dear Reader, Grief doesn’t just show up in your heart—it shows up in your budget, your sleep, and your spending habits. And that’s not because you’re not disciplined enough. It’s because grief scrambles everything—your nervous system, your routines, your ability to make decisions. You might overspend, stop checking your accounts, cancel plans you already paid for, or stop doing the small daily habits that used to keep you grounded. Again, this isn't a discipline issue—it’s grief doing what...
12 days ago • 1 min read
Dear Reader, When self-care feels like a chore, it's a sign that you're tired, dysregulated, or both. We’re taught that journaling, meditating, or gratitude lists are always supposed to feel good. But when you’re deep in survival mode, even picking up a pen can feel like too much. That doesn’t mean you’re doing something wrong—it means your nervous system needs care, not pressure. I know this because I’ve lived it, and so have many of my clients. After my Abue Ana passed away, coloring by...
17 days ago • 1 min read
Dear Reader, When I was 16, I woke up one morning unable to move the right side of my body. That moment changed the trajectory of my life. For the next 16 years, I cycled through diagnoses—fibromyalgia, a slipped disc, unexplained inflammation. Some years I used a wheelchair. Others, I was bedridden. Always, I was fighting to find answers. In 2019, with two small children and a body that wouldn’t cooperate, I hit a breaking point. My Abue Ana told me I had to fight. And so I did—not just for...
19 days ago • 1 min read
Dear Reader, There’s a version of me that thrives with dinero self-care. They’ve got a Google Sheet that tracks every account. They believe income is easy to grow. They know reviewing numbers can be a little tedious—but also deeply empowering. And they love making data-informed decisions that allow them to spend with joy. Financial literacy? That’s an interest. Budgeting? A habit. Investing? Automatically. Checking account buffer, sinking funds, debt-payoff plan? All in place. But restorative...
24 days ago • 1 min read
Dear Reader, Right now, I’m in a season of planting seeds—in my business, my body, my marriage, my parenting, and my finances. This isn’t a season of immediate results. It’s a season of experimenting, learning, and trusting that the habits I’m building today will bloom six months from now, a year from now, and definitely five years from now. In my business, I’m testing new marketing strategies and improving client systems because I know that one day my podcast will be in the top 10%, and...
26 days ago • 1 min read
Dear Reader, If Trump’s ongoing attacks on democracy, his fascist rhetoric, and the nonstop political turmoil have left you feeling anxious, overwhelmed, or frozen— I get it. It’s a lot. You might be searching for comfort—through a treat, a trip, or time with a good friend. And I hope you don’t shame yourself for that. Seeking joy is a form of resistance.Rest is revolutionary.Pleasure is powerful. I also know that for many of us, money becomes the one thing we can try to control. You might be...
about 1 month ago • 1 min read
Dear Reader, If you're unsure whether to lease or buy a car right now, I want to first say:That confusion makes total sense. We're in an economic moment where prices feel unpredictable, loans are more expensive, and choosing between two imperfect options can feel exhausting. It’s okay to feel overwhelmed. You’re trying to be responsible, strategic, and care for your long-term financial security.That’s not easy—but you’re doing the work. Let’s walk through this together. 🚗 Buying a Car =...
about 1 month ago • 2 min read